i don't ever want to stop learning.

it's snowing a little this morning
and it's chilly.
cheerfully bright tulips on the mantle help with all that.

 ...and just so you know,
these photos have absolutely nothing to do with today's post.

yesterday oprah was in toronto
and she had two live online life classes.
(one aired on own last night and another will be later)
the first was about gratitude
and the second was about forgiveness.
these are a couple of things that i try hard to
have present in my life.
(and remind the girls of often)
i thought i knew enough about these two rules,
but i was wrong.
a lot of what was said was kind of blah, blah, blah...
and i was thinking about shutting it down.
i'm glad i didn't.
a few things really made me think...

-some people give love by the gallon,
others by the pint.
those who love by the pint don't know any differently.
that's the best they can do.
we need to forgive them for that.
find others who love by the gallon
and they will fill the gap.

-people generally love in 4 ways
1. only give love if it gets them attention
2. loves but expects something for it
3. loves but with some boundaries
4. loves completely unconditionally
(rare, like mother theresa, dali lama kind of love)
something we can strive for of course.
i understand this already...
i just liked hearing someone else say it...
it validated my belief system.

one more thing...

-if someone is judging you because you do not
fill their expectations...it is none of your business.
it's their problem, not yours.
let go of the guilt and forgive yourself.
in the past i've tried not to take things personally,
but now i'll quickly let it go...
and forgive them too.

have a happy tuesday.
xox